I'm Back!!!!!!! July 1, 2012 154 days to go!

Hello world!!!!!!!
                  Sorry for the major hiatus , but I was on a brief  sabbatical. I had to find myself. lol.  Anyway   can't believe there is 154 days left.  Yet time still seems to be moving slow, at least to me it does. As the time nears to the wedding I seem to get more and more impatient. The long distance is taking a toll on me, and I  cant wait to wake up next to my wife. Basically a brother get lonely and the only person I want to spend my time with is Kari. What sucks about our current situation is whenever either one of us goes to see each other we never get no/limited QT time together (and I don't mean bumping and grinding) because we're trying to fit so much shit in basically one day; and before you know it its time to go.That's been our routine for the last several months, so I can't wait for that to be over.
                  We have 5 months from Wednesday left until the wedding, and it feels like shit ain't done yet. lol. ( Prolly cuz it ain't) I mean both venues are still undecided,  Limo ain't booked yet because we don't know the address of  a venue we don't have.  We had a DJ, but we may be changing that too. The only thing certain right now is the Honeymoon and the save the date cards. lol.  But like I said in my  other post its the gift and curse of having Nigerian parents basically funding your wedding. I mean we can't make a move without them. And that basically fucks with Kari because she feel like its her wedding, her day, (rightfully so) and she should be able to make most of the decisions especially  on the things we paying for.  This situation causes problems between me and Kari all the time. I have an easier time dealing with this, and think its because I'm 100% Nigerian and I know  and understand how they gonna act. I know that even though its our wedding there are still gonna be things that happen in our lives that will surpass the " wedding Day" and our parents will have no involvements at all. anyway at the end of the day I know and have faith everything is going to be beautiful. 


 
Peace!!!!!

304 Days Left!!

Hello people,

I hope everyone had a wonderful day today. I just got home about 20 minutes ago after leaving the office at 4:30 (it’s now 6:44). Traffic was ridiculous today. I can not wait till those days of sitting in traffic to get home are over. Anyway apparently some people (Kari) have a problem with my grammar whenever I write my blogs. First off let it be known I'm an Engineer not an English teacher THANKS!!!! lol. No, but for real I almost got mad at her this morning. I felt like she wasn’t really being encouraging by always point out my flaws (grammar) whenever I posted my blog. I was like damn here she go again critizing my shit, but in fact it wasn’t until I told myself not to get crazy mad and let her explain herself, and she did. After she did I understood, and imp glad she does it. However for a brief moment there we were disconnected in trying to understanding each other over something so small, but if you know us could have easily got out of hand. This leads me to my point that communication between couples is very important. Women just don’t think like men, and men don’t think like women. What makes it worse for us (me and Kari) is that she comes from a family of all girls where they are all sensitive and always in touch with their” feelings" and crap like that loll. They speak very gently to each other when one is down and I guess better understand each other when a situation arises. Well I come from an ALL boy family. We don’t cry. My father put it in our heads early that crying fixes nothing, so we just didn’t cry. lol. Whenever my brothers were acting "soft" they were told about themselves and got made fun of, and vice versa. That’s just they way we dealt with things. With that said both of our experiences carried over into our relationship and made things challenging. A challenge that I would say has gotten better over time, but still needs work. I actually believe like I said earlier women and men just don’t see eye to eye, and will never see eye to eye; however if worked at we all maybe can understand each other better. I even decided to do the whole therapy thing to work on my communication skills among other things. I feel like sometimes I’m just too brutally honest/opionated, and I’m willing to work on that for some peace of mind. lol

So I finally got a place I don't remember if I said so, but yea I’m finally moving out. I'm excited I feel like everything is really come into place and this is one more step forward in claiming my adult-hood. It's really going to be good for me and Kari because maybe just maybe she'll open up a little more (if you know what I mean) lol. Yea basically though the privacy will be good for us, so i’m excited about that too. lol yesterday I threw my groomsmen under the bus. Just to clarify they all did a wonderful job of showing up and help in anyway they could, but they just didn’t listen when I said to wear a certain color that’s all. lol.

Kari told me today that I’m losing my readers because I’m not consistent with my posting blog. So first off I want to thank the people actually read the blog regardless of when I post it. I will try harder from this point on the be very consistent.

Peace!!

304 days left!!!!! I love it I can't wait. I thank Father Almighty for the blessing he has giving to me in Kari Lawal

305 days to go!

Hello World!!! Good Evening America!!!!!
                                            
Its been a while fellow people. I'm gonna keep it nice and simple today. lol. Whats good people. So today marks 3 months that I hve completed at my career job. YAY!!!! me. lol. Anyway lately its really been hard for me to deal with the distance between me and Kari.  It sucks. Pretty much all I do is go to work come and home and count down the hours till I get to talk to her. Smh I know pathetic right?? Well it seems like once I got engaged all my friends became permanetly occupied. lol. Either they got a shortie or they got several shorties, and to be honest I'd rather have female company (Kari that is. lol.) then hang out with them all the time. I also think onced I got engaged it kind of increase my love and affection for her. All I wanna do is be in her face 24/7. I wasnt always like this but being engaged has done this to me. lol.
            My Boobie has officially chosen THE GOWN!!! I cant wait to see her in it I know she is going to look gorgeous.  Now i'm on a mission to find my tux. I got to look fine for my baby too. lol.  Oh yea before I forget I would like to shout out the brides-maids for their wonderful job of holding down my future wife during our engagement cookout at the end of last month (I know im mad late). They did a fantastic job and really came thru even to the point where when Kari asked them to wear a certain color they did. Whereas my simple ass groomsmen couldnt follow instructions smh.  You know men gonna be men. lol So thanks ladies i recongnise the effort.



Peace!!!!

305 days left!!!!! I love it I can't wait. I thank Father Almighty for the blessing he has giving to me in Kari Lawal

           

333 days to go!

HELLO WORLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!,
                    
I know I know, I've been slacking on my blog. Sorry folks. Keeping up with this blog has been hard with all that's going on in my life right now, but I'm back with plenty to say. lol. So I was watching Brown Sugar like a week ago, and I just got a Lil emotional (I've been like that these days smh!!!!) to see two people with that type of friendship turn into love like that is beautiful! For y'all that don't know I met Kari when I was 8 yrs old and it was love at first site (literally).  That same day she became my very first girlfriend, and I must say it was pretty intense for a couple of 8 yrs. lol. We were in a "relationship" for three years, and only saw each other whenever we went to African events or  whenever my parents went over her father house and vice versa. I was from the county and she was from the city so we barely saw each other, but the "relationship" lasted until we was 11 and then she broke up with me. lol. I was devastated I couldn't understand why, but got over it and moved on (dramatic pause).
                       Eventually as we got older we became friends again, but i didn't have those type of feelings for her anymore it was straight on a friendship tip for me. Then when we both went into 9th grade we became closer and talked on the phone every once in a while. In the summer before the 10th grade I found out me and my family were moving to St.Louis, so her father and my father decided that me and my brother and her and her sister would spend practically every weekend together for the last two weeks before we left. I didn't know at the time but Kari was very sad that I was moving, and on the last day we all hung out before my family I left she wrote me a long letter lol (which by the way i kept up until about 3 years ago), and she just basically told me how she felt about me. That was also the day we kissed for the first time. (Let her tell it she kissed me, but don't get it twisted i handled mind. lol.) While in St.Louis are friendship just got stronger and stronger to the point where I talked to her more than I talked to my own girlfriend at the time. We talked about EVERYTHING! She was my best friend. Finally in our senior year of high school over 900 miles away from each other we decided to stop fighting our love for each other and take our friendship to the next level. The rest is history in the making.
                     I feel like that's the best way to go. You want your significant other that you decide to marry to be your best friend, and I'm glad to say that me and Kari were best friends for a long time and are still best friends now. She is the only person I'll get emotional around, and THAT'S WHEN I FELL IN LOVE WITH KARI!! lol.


333 days left!!!!! I love it I can't wait. I thank Father Almighty for the blessing he has giving to me in Kari Lawal.

354 days to go!

Good Evening!!,
                         354 days left!!!! Sorry about the delay, but I'll be honest keeping up with a blog is a full time job. Besides my lady came in town so I was distracted for several days. lol. As you get older it seems like everything that use to be second nature to you all of a sudden becomes hard as hell. I use to work out three times a day, and now i cant even look at weights. lol. Kari and I haven't worked out hard since before we went to Jamaica July of last year; now that we got a wedding coming up we are trying to get back to it,but its hard. The funny thing is she got a membership and I got a gym in the basement (sad I know) lol. My poor boobie tells her self she's gonna go (even today) and she never makes it. lol.  At least I don't bother. I figure once I'm ready I'm ready, so with that said I'll be starting Monday. lol.
                Having Nigerian parents can be the gift and the curse. The gift: they have decided to take on the financial burden of the wedding. The curse: we have to fight with our parents about making decisions on OUR wedding. Because of that Kari and I have bump heads a few times about whats going on. I figure why fight with them we're the ones coming out on top. All money we save goes to either the honey moon or basically whatever we want so let them do what they want, but the American in Kari (SMH!!!) ain't trying to have it. She wants to fight for everything which is cool I guess, but why stress yourself out you know. Well Sunday we having a meeting with our parents like we the players and they the owners and we gonna try to negotiate for more things to go our way. lol.  Truthfully I can go either way, but I want my baby to be happy so of course I'm siding with her.



354 days left!!!!! I love it I can't wait. I thank Father Almighty for the blessing he has giving to me in Kari Lawal.

361 Days left

Hello people,
                        Sorry about yesterday. It was a loooong day at work. If Kari reads this she gonna think I  just wanted to put it out there because I got a career job now, but  truth be told it really was a long day. lol. So today marks 361 days left till the wedding and its crazy because time is flying. Right now I'm trying to get my finance's together before Kari and I tie the knot, and  I'm in the process of trying to move out ( finally!!!) all while trying to save $ 5000 by the day of  the wedding. Yea I know some of y'all might think I'm out my mind, but moving out before I get married is something very important to me. One: I need to have my own shit before I spend the rest of my life sharing EVERYTHING!! I own with my Boobie (Kari). lol. Two: Kari and I need something for just the two of us whenever she comes around without our parents being in our grills ( The wonderful benefits of having Nigerian parents). Three: I feel like I need to get a sense of " real life responsibilities" without my parents especially my dad. So yea I got a major task ahead of me, but I'm ready for the challenge.
                 You never really understand what people mean about anything they complain about until you go through it yourself. Weddings do bring out the true character of the people you call friends; and the fact that I've been in a wedding and now having my own I can see both perspectives. Last year when I was asked to be in a friends wedding I took that to be such a honor, and even though I was the brokest of all the groomsmen I made sure I did everything I could do to support my homie. With that said I expect the same for both Kari and I. Fortunately for me I haven't had any problems with my groomsmen  yet. lol. HOWEVER!  and this is just from my stand point, my poor wife to be is already coming across some of the selfishness that you don't expect to get from the  "chosen ones" ( Brides Maids.) I wont go into details for now lol, but real talk do onto others as you want others to do onto you.  If you expect me to go all out for you during your wedding process, if you expect me to fulfill the responsibilities as part of the bridal party, and if you except when offered to be as part of the Bridal party. Then it is expected of you to put forth 110%. Its just that simple, shit I did it while in school, and no job.
              Yea things are starting to heat up and we not even half way yet. lol. I love it though. I think going thru this whole process can only make you stronger and I'm looking forward to conquering the  obstacles in my way and keeping you guys informed as Kari and I plan for our BIG PHAT NIGERIAN WEDDING!!! lol. Until next time.

PEACE!!





 361 days left!!!!! I love it I can't wait. I thank Father Almighty for the blessing he has giving to me in Kari Lawal.

Family Introduction!!!!!

Hello everyone,
Today marks  363 days !!!! I have left until I get married to my gorgeous fiancee Kari Lawal.  In our Nigerian culture there are three stages to getting married.. The first is the introduction: where the families of the groom and bride meet for the first time. Each family has someone who introduces the family. When i say family I mean the WHOLE!!! family, and not just the mom and dad. lol. During this meeting the families eat, drink, and socialize. Also this is the beginning of where the groom and his family have to "convince" the brides family to allow her to marry the groom. lol.
          With that said Saturday July 1 2011 was not only the one year mark to my wedding, but it was the official "Introduction" of the two families, and it was a crazy one.  Me, my family and most of my groomsmen took 5 cars and went up to NJ and represented for the Edwin family. lol.  Before we got there i was having fun in the car, cracking jokes with my brothers I felt real comfortable, but as soon as it was time to begin I became very very nervous. Partly because I felt like both me and Kari were tricked. Prior to the meeting we were both informed by our parents that it would be a small, non traditional (other than the clothes and food) introduction with about 35 people total. However, over 70 people showed up, there was 5 camera men and one video camera guy, and a dude on an African drum. lol. It was absolute madness!!
             At the end of the day I loved it, and I'm glad that our engagement was official. It means we are one step closer to being married. It also let me know how much my friends and family love me, and I am very greatful for all of them.